Posts Tagged ‘internet dating’

First Dating Site Email, Express a Common Interest

Sunday, March 7th, 2010

The best internet dating sites offer a variety of ways to communicate with other singles. Sending a Wink, Instant Message, Video Greeting, or an Email are a few of the ways you can break the ice. For those methods which require writing a message, remember to focus on at least one point of interest in the person’s personal ad profile.

Internet dating works, when you avoid the common mistakes made by most singles eager to jump into the fish pond. The biggest mistake is sending mass emails to single women or men that catch your attention, without reviewing their personal ad profile first. “Hey you’re beautiful” or “I love you” might cut it at the local watering hole, but it won’t separate you from the internet dating site crowd.

The major benefit of internet dating is being able to pre-screen single women or men. Who’s email would you rather answer first, the one that expresses a common interest or your complete opposite? Well, I guess you can argue either way on that point. But if I like to play Chess on a regular basis and you email me about your last Skydiving adventure, I won’t reply to your email, and I really shouldn’t.

Try to ask a question about an interest in common, then, tell a little bit about your interest in the subject as well. There’s no need for overkill here. Simply plant the seed for the reply and follow up emails.

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What To Talk About On Your First Date

Saturday, March 6th, 2010

If a good conversation is the key to having a good first date, what are the things that you should talk about with your date on your first date?

Here are some good topics that will certainly lead to some fun times on your very first date. These topics can also help singles strike up a conversation within an online dating site such as True.com, Chemistry.com,  Match.com or Yahoo Personals. If you haven’t already, sign up for an internet dating free trial and give them a try.

1. Ask your date if she/he has any siblings. This will get your date into talking about her family life and how she grew up. In turn, this will give you a glimpse as to what kind of person she really is. Take care not to ask about her parents though, in case they are divorced, because that will get your date clamming up.

2. Travel plans and travel experiences are awesome topics to discuss during a first date. You will be able to get a glimpse of the world through your date’s eyes and judge for yourself if you like what you see or not. Who knows what you might learn from talking about his travel stories, too.

3. If your first date is in a restaurant, what else could be a safer topic than food and drink. Find out what kinds of food that your date enjoys and check out if you have the same preferences. This is also an opportunity to see if she has any interesting eating habits.

4. And yet another safe topic for discussion on a first date is each other’s job and career plans. Is your date the ambitious sort or is he content with his current job? Maybe you can find some point where the two of you can jive together in this thread of conversation. After all, people love to talk about their jobs, no matter how great or miserable the job is, or regardless of how exciting or routine it is.

5. Get your date talking about her friends. As the saying goes, “Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.” What she tells you about her friends is a huge indicator of what she really is as a person, and these details will be very helpful if you ever get to build a relationship with her later on.

6. Ask your date what he does in his spare time. Make polite conversation about his hobbies and favorite things to do. Inquire as to whether or not he is into sports and what kind of sports he plays. Not only will this get your date exposing more information about himself, it will also give you ideas on what to do for your following dates in case you survive the first date.

7. Find out what your date does on weekends. This is a true glimpse of what her life is like. Also, it will send signals to your date that you would like to see this budding relationship get serious enough for the two of you to spend weekends together.

The idea behind a first date is to get to know your date and to see if the two of you click together. Get your date talking and pay attention to whatever he/she says.

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