False Dating Beliefs
There are certain beliefs that many singles out there hold dear to themselves, which govern the way they date and look for a new relationship. Unfortunately, some of these beliefs are false and may actually prevent singles from finding happiness, rather than promote their search for true love.
Here are just some of these false dating beliefs:
• There are no more good singles out there for me. Many singles seem to think that all the good and eligible singles are taken, and all those left are just the dregs of the dating world. That is a preposterous conclusion to come to, because there are certainly many great singles out there if you know where to look. The search for true love, or even for a great date, is more than just a game of numbers. If you want to find a great partner, whether for now or for life, you have to stop sitting around and look around. Most of all, find out where you should be looking.
• Decent places to find decent dates are becoming rare. This is a favorite excuse among singles who are too lazy to go on their own search for potential dating partners and who would rather wait for them to fall on their lap. Again, to snag a good dating partner takes a little effort to accomplish. It is certainly not impossible to meet new people and find a dating prospect among them. If you want to take the traditional route, just hang out at places where other singles meet, like bars, the gym, book stores, coffee shops or the mall. And of course, check out the online scene and join an online dating site.
• Actively looking for dates makes me look desperate. This is a lie; there is absolutely nothing wrong with actively looking for dates, online or offline, and neither would it make you look desperate. When you are dating or looking for dates, you have to have a goal in mind, whether it is to have as many short term relationships as you can get or to get married and start a family, and you have to aggressively pursue that goal. Being active in working for your relationship goal does not make you look desperate at all. The best things come to those who wait, that is true; but you have to get off your rear and start doing your own part too.
• The people I meet are not hot, smart, interesting or good enough for me. Nobody is perfect. When we meet new dating prospects, we have to keep an open mind and be realistic about our expectations. Rather than tick off your prospective date’s characteristics from a checklist that is most likely to be filled by unreal traits that you desire most in your potential partner, take the time to get to know your date and then decide if you can accept him/her for what he/she is. It is perfectly alright to have an ideal, as long as that ideal does not blind you to the Prince/Princess Charming standing right in front of you.
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- Roel